Radiation & Health Updates

They say a picture is worth a thousand words. This photo describes what my life has been like lately. I am not tolerating radiation; in fact, I had to cancel treatment this past week and have no idea if I can even continue – I’m not even halfway done. The only other option anyone has to offer me from here on out is chemo. The odds of it working are incredibly low, but the odds of it further harming (or killing) me are very high.

I have never felt so awful in my entire life. I fall asleep at the drop of a hat during the day and don’t wake up feeling any better. I spend 10+ hours in bed (waking frequently) and awake in the morning feeling worse than I did when I went to sleep. I have this horrendous cough that strains every muscle in my body, and often leaves me retching uncontrollably over the garbage bin. Nearly every time I try to talk, it causes a coughing fit that leaves me reeling and crying. I’m taking pain meds around the clock and am still in excruciating pain half the time. Getting in with palliative care or a pain management provider for the last few months has been yet another ridiculous headache that showcases our broken healthcare system.

I can do very little for myself anymore, and have such little energy or capacity that eating and cleaning myself are about all I have left in me. Even if I have an appetite, I can’t eat much, or I end up more nauseated or in a ton of pain. I grow out of clothes each week, despite losing muscle and fat… I’m retaining a ton of water which just adds to the discomfort and general feelings of illness.

I want to be healthy. Why is that so much to ask?!?!?! I want to decorate for Christmas, make Christmas crafts with the kids, bake, go shopping and not need to use a motorized scooter to get around. I want to be able to do hobbies I enjoy. Even to stay awake to be able to read a book. I’m not asking anyone to do these things for me. I want to be able to do them myself!!! It isn’t a big ask! …yet each day I feel weaker and lower on hope. I pray every single day for a miraculous healing. I’m alive, but this isn’t living. This is suffering and trying desperately to find any ounce of good or joy or pleasure.

I truly do not know what will come next. I don’t know if I will do treatment this coming week, if I’ll ask for a longer pause, or if the radiation oncologist will put his foot down and tell me we can no longer proceed. He’s already suggested I may want to stop and pivot to chemo instead.

My body and I have battled this storm for over 6 years now, and I’ve never been this lost, exhausted, or defeated. I know it must be easy to think or say, “Keep going, you’re so strong, you can’t give up…” but you’ve never been in these shoes. Imagine the sickest you’ve ever been. Now imagine being that sick for Months with no end in sight. And every day you feel worse and weaker. You want SO badly to get better, to feel something other than horrible, to LIVE.

I don’t want to give up. I don’t want to die. But this.. this isn’t “living”… this is trying every day to not die, to feel the worst physical and emotional pain day in and day out. And most people either see me as a lost cause and can’t hold hope with me, or invalidate my experiences when they say I’m not allowed to feel or say certain things because of the discomfort it causes them. Every provider feels the need to remind me how sick I am and everything that’s wrong with me. Everyone has opinions, but no one has the answer.

I’m doing my best to find any possible comfort amongst the incredible pain. I appreciate those who have reached out, and I apologize if I don’t respond or take days (or weeks) to do so. Please know I’m doing my best, but I just can’t keep up with anything anymore. If you want to help, please lift me and my family up in prayer. Pray for miraculous healing. For strength. For guidance. For peace.

I want to Heal. I want to Live. I need a miracle.

Starting Radiation Again Soon

Sadly, you’re not looking at a baby belly… this is a tumor-filled belly 😩 The last couple of months have been incredibly challenging. Just as I was starting to feel a little stronger a few weeks after surgery in August, other symptoms began to show up or worsen, and have only gotten more difficult to cope with since then.

I had scans in early October which showed continued progression. I haven’t been able to do much for integrative treatments in several months now because my body screams a hard NO!! whenever I try. I do push, because I want this stuff to work, I want to heal, but there has been no clear payoff with anything lately.

I have literally begged and pleaded with surgeons and other doctors to help me: specifically with a very large liver mass. Every single consult and plea has been met with a closed door, and sadly, little to no compassion. I had begged the surgeon in August to do everything he possibly could while he had me opened up, but he said he would only take the largest mass, and then we would discuss further interventions after I’d had some time to recover. However, when that time came, I received a hard No to any further care from him. I’ve consulted with multiple specialities and surgeons across different health care systems. None will help me. They see me as too high risk and a lost cause without much time left.

The only conventional provider I can find who is willing to try anything on the large liver mass is my radiation oncologist. I am set to start proton beam radiation this coming week, and the treatment course is expected to take about a month. I have no idea what to expect, but because of the large size and location, as well as involvement of the inferior vena cava, the rad onc is worried about how sick I could get. Idk how much I’ll be able to eat, keep down, detox, or digest… I already have terrible abdominal pain and pressure, and because of the restricted blood flow in the IVC, I get extremely short of breath, weak, with heavy, painful, shaky legs any time I bend at the waist or take even 2 stairs. Lymph and blood flow are restricted below the liver, so I have a lot of fluid retention, lymphedema, and more nerve pain now. Many mornings are spent on the couch writhing in pain for hours as I try to deal with the severe radiating pain down my leg, in my low back, and through my whole abdomen. Sadly, nothing really works to alleviate the pain.

What’s probably one of the hardest things to deal with is knowing I have a bunch of integrative tools at my disposal, but my body simply won’t tolerate them anymore. When I push, I’m met with horrible reactions that last days and only result in further tumor swelling/growth.

Needless to say, I have been very lost and simply incapable of doing much more than trying my damnedest to survive each day. Life barely feels real anymore.

I have SO many negative emotions toward certain providers and their lies, misinformation, inflammatory statements, and omission of extremely critical information over the last 6 years. I am working to process all of this, because I know it isn’t doing me any good. As both a patient and provider though, it makes me completely disgusted with the way conventional oncology is run in our country. There have been some angels in this hell, but unfortunately it isn’t the norm.

Six years in, and there are very few stones I’ve left unturned. Yet here I am, fighting for my life harder than I ever have, with seemingly few options remaining. I still believe, somehow, someway, there IS a path to true healing for me. I don’t know what it is. My senses don’t perceive it. But my heart and soul believe.

I don’t know what the next month will bring with treatment, or if I’ll have the capacity to keep everyone updated. Honestly, right now, I can Barely take care of my Very basic needs each day. Thank you in advance for your understanding, prayers, and support.

Another Major Surgery Coming Up

I’ll be having Major surgery this coming Monday to deal with a number of tumors that have been causing severe, long-standing problems. I’m still healing from the scalp surgery and skin graft, but am in dire need of more surgery… Three different surgeons will be operating on me, in 4 different areas, but I will still be closed up with numerous masses remaining that they unfortunately won’t remove.

I have an extremely large mass on the left lobe of my liver that has been restricting my ability to eat for months, as it’s pressing directly against my stomach. My ribs are flaring and separating, muscles and nerves stretching and pulling apart, spine/ribs/back/muscles being strained, and I cannot get or stay comfortable in really any position.

An orthopedic surgeon is planning to remove a large and bothersome mass from my glute, and another from the back of my shoulder. A gyn-onc will be removing a very sensitive mass on my vulva.

There are numerous other masses in the abdomen and pelvis that the hepatobiliary surgeon does not feel are appropriate to remove right now due to increased risk of complications. Despite the fact they are all causing pain and symptoms, and they will be cutting my entire abdomen open, this surgery is viewed as simply palliative by modern medicine.

We are struggling immensely with the weight, stress, grief, anxiety, frustration, helplessness, and anger of all of this. I have been working SO UNBELIEVABLY HARD for SO LONG to heal. From February to June I was doing daily IV infusions between home and my integrative physician’s clinic. Doing so many therapies it would make your heads spin.. many of them helping me feel better and giving us hope that we were finally moving in the right direction. But somehow it all became too much and rather than helping me heal and feel better, tumor site pain suddenly picked up significantly, and the more I did, the more the pain and tumor swelling progressed. So I unfortunately had to pull back on almost everything in June, and have the scalp masses removed because I could barely sleep from severe pain anymore. I still haven’t been able to resume most of the therapies due to worsening of already severe tumor site pain each time I try again.

So now I’m in this place where the surgery will alleviate some suffering, but possibly not enough that will allow me to resume any of the treatments that were previously helping me.

No one in conventional medicine sees an answer for me. I’m struggling to get requested consults or considerations for newer or less invasive/less toxic treatments that could help me, but they’ll happily offer me chemo that has terrible odds of working and fantastic odds of killing me. The conventional oncology system is broken in our country. They seem to have zero interest in trying to uncover the true root causes, and instead spend billions trying to find new ways to treat the symptoms (tumors) rather than solving the underlying causes and how to reverse them while healing the patient as a whole. I shouldn’t have to spend nearly every waking hour of my life doing my own research, paying thousands upon thousands of dollars out of pocket for every integrative consult and therapy, and experimenting on myself to try to survive. I am not blaming any one institution here; it is Everywhere in our country (and many other countries as well). This isn’t to say I’m ungrateful for the treatments I have needed, but if true root causes were researched the way pharmaceuticals are, recurrences and stage IV terminal diagnoses would be nothing like what they are today.

It seems to me now that many people see me as a lost cause. As a story character whose fate was sealed with the original diagnosis. But I don’t, nor have I ever, seen myself that way. What I do see and hear and feel (deeply) is the fear and preconceived notions that people (typically providers) have about me. I am extremely sensitive to people talking to me and making treatment decisions as if my ending has already been written. I have plenty enough fear and grief already. I know the odds are stacked against me. But that doesn’t mean I don’t still believe in myself or in miracles.

We are struggling immensely with all of this. Despite all we’ve been through, it unfortunately just seems to continue to get harder. I have extremely limited physical capacity right now, mental capacity is beyond its maximum between the severe pain and stress, and I need to do an insane amount of preparation for surgery and my hospital stay. My body wants to rest but cannot find a way to get comfortable to do so, and my heart just wants to be with Brandon and the kids, but my mind pulls me in a million directions while the pain and debilitating fatigue are screaming at me no matter what I do. Brandon continues to work full-time and try to carry me, the kids, the house, and everything else.

We appreciate your kind words, prayers, and support, but please understand we are drowning and oftentimes trying to respond to even a quick message is just too much for us right now. Please understand it is Not personal, and your kindness is noted, taken to heart, and very much appreciated.

As always, I will do my best to share a post-op update when I am able.

Thank you ❤️‍🩹

Scan Updates 💔

This past week’s scans did not go as we had hoped. Far from it, actually. Despite my best efforts, the cancer has progressed. I now have 2 significantly sized lesions in my liver, and a couple more questionable spots elsewhere. It’s been a difficult week of extremely difficult discussions and emotions.

I had my 3rd radiation treatment on Thursday. Once this round is complete (still currently scheduled for a total of 8 treatments), the road is murky. Due to the sizes of the liver lesions, they are not good candidates for interventional radiology procedures or radiation. I am awaiting a surgical consult with the surgeon who did my last abdominal surgery. While I have no interest in going through a 3rd massive abdominal surgery, if these spots are even resectable, it may be necessary.

I met with my oncologist yesterday to have a discussion I’ve been fearing for years. We have reached a difficult point in my health care plan: whether or not to do chemo again. There is no cure for leiomyosarcoma. I have known this all along. Every patient is different, however. Some need a surgery or a few treatments, they reach stability or a state of having no evidence of disease, and they can stay there… sometimes for years, sometimes indefinitely. I have always intended to be one of those patients. Unfortunately, these last several months have shown acceleration of disease I’ve never had, and it has continued to get worse.

Conventional oncology here in the US can offer surgery, radiation, chemo, and sometimes interventional radiology procedures to remove, slow, or stop lesions. But they have no way of making it go away for good. None of these treatments get to the root cause, nor can they attack circulating or cancer stem cells. It’s essentially sustaining a game of whack-a-mole as long as you can. The final Hail Mary can sometimes include chemo. We discussed this in depth yesterday.

In my case, the goal/hope with chemo would be to stabilize existing spots and hopefully stop new spots from popping up. This is best case scenario. There would be a small chance of decrease in size for existing spots, but it isn’t the usual outcome for LMS patients. None of this is news to me, but it was good to get confirmation and better understand the realistic expectations.

If there was stability or shrinkage and I was tolerating the treatment, then I’d just stay on it indefinitely until it stopped working or I no longer tolerated it. So, essentially, once you get on that chemo train, you stay on it until it derails, then try another train, until that one derails or you don’t tolerate it, etc, likely indefinitely. Meanwhile, the train is dragging you beneath it, beating you up the whole way… and after how poorly I tolerated chemo the first time, and how weak I have already been these past several months, the idea sounds terrifying and frankly not safe.

My oncologist understands why I am hesitant to do it, and said that whatever I decide, she will support me however she can and that she wishes she had more and better options to offer me..

I don’t know that I want to board the train. I have to weigh the known high risks with the possibility of stability, but only with continued use, and only if I tolerated it…

It has very much come to the point now where I need to figure this out on my own, receive God’s blessings of a tremendous miracle, or this may be the beginning of the end.

Brandon and I have been working hard together to review my protocol, going back through all our notes and prior ideas… things I’ve tried that could be modified or restarted, things we hoped I wouldn’t need to resort to, continuing to think outside the box and prioritize as best we can. I’ve been going back and forth with my integrative team, bringing new providers and therapies on board for the last few weeks… we are feeling like we still have some solid ideas that all have research and/or strong anecdotal evidence to support… but it is scary as F!!!!!!!! And expensive!! Insurance doesn’t pay for wellness, unfortunately 🙄😤. And the stress?? There is no way to describe it.

These past few weeks my priority in choosing therapies and regimens has been Wellness. How can I not just “attack” cancer but also Deeply HEAL my body and mind! I continue to read stories of miraculous remissions to give me a dose of hope to keep going. I look at my husband and kids and it GUTS me to think about leaving them behind. So through the tears and heartbreak I keep researching, keep reading and experimenting on myself. Praying to God, my angels, and ancestors to Please guide me! Please heal me! Please help me so that I can be here, healthy, to live a long life with my family.

I am terrified of the possible pain and suffering, but I’m not a stranger to that. I don’t need to be told I’m strong. I Know I am. And I don’t want to have to be! I’ve been strong long enough!! But the thing that haunts me the most is the thought of leaving my family when we still have so much life to live together.

I am not asking for anything right now, but pretty please don’t put the onus on me to tell you how you can help.. I so VERY much appreciate the offers, but in all honesty, I can barely get through the day, and I don’t have the mental capacity to try to think anymore than I already need to. If it moves you, please join me in prayer. We are continuing to spend a lot of money on experimental therapies. We are driving long distances most days so are going through a lot of gas and wear and tear on the car. I am trying to eat as healthfully as possible, but our schedule is chaotic and requires immense flexibility, so life is rarely plannable for us anymore.

If there is a supplement or medication or protocol out there, I have likely tried it and/or am doing it… Brandon keeps reminding me that if beating this were easy, they would have figured it out by now. I’ve been trying to get beyond cancer for 5 fricken years. I am beyond exhausted and hanging on by a thread of hope most of the time. But I know that that thread, however thin, will keep me working so that I can stay here with my husband and kids for as long as I possibly can.

Doing My Best

I have tried to write a meaningful post nearly every day since getting home from radiation, and I still don’t quite know what to say. I don’t have the capacity, nor do I think it appropriate, to lie. However, telling the truth will likely result in people checking in with our family and friends to see if I’m ok, so please let me preface this by saying: I am doing my best. My providers are aware. I have probably tried or looked into the majority of suggestions people have. This is simply what my life is like right now. I am posting because I know people are concerned and/or wondering.

I feel unwell. Physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. It is 2:24pm as I draft this post, and I have not been able to get dressed, do anything with my hair, brush my teeth, or do Anything other than wash my face, eat a few things that didn’t require prep work, and do a few stretches today. Every time I get up to, say, use the bathroom, I am met with this overwhelming feeling of exhaustion, discomfort, and an inexplicable feeling that I Need to sit back down. I’m lightheaded and nearly pass out with standing up, 10 hours in bed isn’t enough, I have horrific nausea and an inability to eat more than a few bites of food without my body rejecting it. Since getting home from radiation less than a month ago, I have unintentionally lost approximately 15 lbs… thus far. I know most of this is muscle mass because I can’t consume enough protein to maintain it.

Every single day is a struggle. When I have appointments, I have to painfully force myself to do things in order to get out of the house, but typically feel worse because I have to keep ignoring my body’s pleas to sit down and stop doing. Once home, I typically cannot get off the couch for usually about 2 hours. Some days I feel better in the afternoons and have maybe 2-3 hours where I can get a few things accomplished. This is usually the time of day when I either get dressed for a few hours, or change into a new pair of pajamas. I’m sure some of you are thinking: That sounds great! Sit around all day in your pjs?! Sure, there are certainly worse ways to spend your day. But this has become my Life as of late, not because I Want to, but because I have no choice, and I am very sad, scared, and depressed. I absolutely cannot tolerate any further aggressive treatments right now. I can’t even tolerate eating food to keep me going each day.

I had another echo and met with a new cardiologist a couple weeks ago. My heart function appears to have declined further since radiation, which is no surprise given what happened. However, before deciding how aggressive we’ll be with treatment, I need a cardiac MRI to ensure we have the most accurate function of my heart. They only have 1 machine and are booked out, so I won’t be getting that done until end of August.

I am in pain, short of breath, intolerant to exercise, lost in brain fog, struggling with horrendous exhaustion, unable to maintain a comfortable body temperature, and still dealing with all the limitations from spinal surgery and radiation. I don’t think it’s necessary to detail it all out, as I’m sure you can begin to imagine how and why my mental, emotional, and spiritual health are all struggling as well.

My next scans and appointments with Mayo are stretched out over the course of a week, which is incredibly annoying… my appointments will be from June 28 through end of day July 3. Great way to head into the holiday weekend here in the U.S.😒😤🙄

I realize this post probably doesn’t sound a whole lot like me… but I don’t feel much like myself anymore anyway. My poor husband and kids have had to watch me struggle to get through each day, to cry and cry because I can’t do the things I want, or even Need to do, and be ok with everything changing More because mom can’t tolerate much of anything. I absolutely Hate having to take life day by day. And after 4.5 years of being forced to do that against my will, now I have to take things hour by hour, sometimes minute by minute. I do not have the luxury of planning anything for the future. As human beings, we thrive on having things to which we can look forward… I have fear and terror of what could happen. With a teeny tiny sliver of hope that I am Really struggling to maintain.

But every day, I get up with the commitment to TRY my best, despite. Hoping and praying that things will start to get better. That I will get better. That I will shock everyone and heal myself.

I don’t know what tomorrow will bring.. I don’t even know if I’ll manage to get dressed today. I am annoyed that it’s taken me an hour to write this post… I forget what I’m saying and doing while I’m in the process of saying/doing, so writing, reading, and talking are all more challenging now, too.

I want to post more, to be helpful to others, or perhaps even inspire.. but lately I can barely help myself, so I guess that’s where I need to continue to focus my energy and attention for now.

Maybe someday soon I’ll figure out how to manage this struggle better, but for now I need to preserve the little bit of energy I have.

Thank you for your prayers. I appreciate them and you. I will continue to pray for and affirm: Better days ahead! 🙏🌻

1st Week of Radiation Complete, with Trip to Emergency Department

Radiation 5/8 completed, and I ended up in the emergency department shortly thereafter 😫

I was feeling more fatigued heading into treatment this morning, but I knew that could be expected. I spoke with a nurse and the radiation oncologist after treatment because I was feeling more short of breath. It quickly escalated, and while my oxygen saturation remained perfect, my heart rate and respirations were increasing and I started to become dizzy. Once they had me lie down, my left arm went numb, then my right, then both of my feet. I felt buzzing, tingling, and shaking everywhere in my body, but I couldn’t lift or move my arms or hands.

They called a code, ran a bunch of tests, and sent me via ambulance to the ED. A CT angio and echo were essentially normal. The EKG showed some abnormalities, and given my history of chemo-induced cardiomyopathy and heart palpitations, I’m now stuck wearing a holter monitor for the next month.

I was thankfully able to come home tonight, but I am beyond exhausted. I’m so tired of being so scared all the time. I’m in so much pain from the week as it is, now I had to miss my chiropractic appointment, and my body’s been put through the wringer today… when it’s already trying to heal from radiation 😭

We’ll have to see how the weekend goes, but they’re still planning to continue treatment next week, while monitoring me closely. I will do my best to rest up this weekend, but there’s always so much to catch up on after getting home, and of course, I want to spend quality time with the kids.

I’m grasping desperately for hope, trying to find faith through the fear, but this monsoon of Shit can go away already!!!! I’m finding it very difficult to move through the anger and grief from all we’ve been dealt these last few years. Enough is enough!!!

I am ready for my miracle 🙏

Helping Others During Times of Crisis

We have been incredibly fortunate over the last few years to be on the receiving end of a great deal of kindness and generosity. From family to friends to complete strangers, people have offered up support in incredible ways to our family. Everything has meant so much to us and has made the numerous crises we’ve faced more manageable and bearable.

Most of us have either faced our own crises or witnessed a loved one go through their own. These events can leave us feeling stressed, lost, helpless, and possibly very alone. I thought it might be helpful to share some ideas for anyone who may need them someday, including ways to make it as easy as possible for those on the receiving end.

Financial support

When a major crisis strikes, one of the top worries for many people will be money. Time away from work, lost vacation, and associated bills/costs may all be a problem. Sloane’s open heart surgery, my surgeries, chemo, scans, and appointments have all required SO MUCH time away from work – obviously for myself, but also for my husband and our family. Suddenly there is a decrease in income, a MAJOR increase in expenses, along with the world being turned upside down. Simple things like going to the grocery store, making meals, and doing fun things with the kids become luxuries.

Needless to say, for many people (though not all), any type of financial support may be incredibly helpful. If you’re not sure, it’s ok to ask! Just beware, it’s normal for people to decline help: No one likes to feel needy or helpless, even if they could legitimately use the help. It honestly took us quite a while to accept my cousin’s kind offer to start a GoFundMe account for us… we finally decided to do so because so many people were asking if we had one. We had no idea so many people would want to help us!

If you are going to gift money, there are a variety of ways to do so. Perhaps you could help set up or share a fundraiser, or help spread the word about another preferred payment method. Platforms like GoFundMe are a great way to streamline updates and quickly spread the news, but they do take a small portion of the donations. Cash, check, gift cards, or direct money transfers through methods like Venmo and Apple Pay are generally quick and easy, without any associated fees.

Food

In our experience, and in many others’ I’ve seen, one of the next most helpful means of support is food. When we’re in crisis mode, the last thing we want to (or can) think about is preparing a meal; and when there are kids involved, you know it’s an even bigger chore! Nowadays there are so many delivery services available, but this of course depends on a person’s location. If you know the person’s favorite restaurants, grocery stores, or delivery services, simply sending them a gift card so they can order their own food on their own time is super slick for you, and probably most convenient for them. People have such a wide variety of dietary preferences and restrictions, so this is a pretty safe way to ensure they can get just what they want when they need it. You may have the desire to order food for someone, thinking it will make it easier for them, and for some people, this may work. However, for a family, it’s probably easiest to allow them to do it themselves and just gift them a gift card or money.

One really cool food delivery option we learned about through a very kind gift is a website called Spoonful of Comfort (www.spoonfulofcomfort.com). They offer gift selections for different occasions and ship all over the United States. Each package comes with a variety of options to choose from, and FYI: their triple chocolate chunk cookies are some of the best cookies I’ve ever had! There are an increasing number of these food delivery services, which is really fortunate for those who may not otherwise have access.

If you live close by and want to bring some type of food, my advice is to check on dietary preferences/restrictions and have some options in mind. When someone is in crisis mode, the last thing they want to do is think of a meal for someone else to make for them… it might make them feel like they’re asking too much, and honestly, might add more stress. My advice would be to offer some specific options, and see if any of them sound good to them. Preparing a simple, ready-to-bake meal with all the fixings and sides can be incredibly special, and best of all, easy for them! Think: some type of pan meal that can be warmed up in the oven, pre-cut and cleaned veggies, fruit, or a salad ready to be thrown together. Anything you can do to reduce prep work is going to be super helpful! Lastly, if you’re planning on dropping off the food, please consider offering the option to drop and go. If they can and/or want to visit, great! But that obligation to entertain or talk may seem like a burden they are not ready or able to take on. Remember, the goal here is to lighten their burden, not create new ones.

Gifts

It is unlikely that anyone facing a crisis is expecting gifts. However, I recommend considering gifts that are either practical or genuine and personal if you’re feeling called to send something physical. I will be writing a separate post that will go into more detail about specific ideas, but care packages or items you know will provide some comfort or ease into their day can be especially meaningful.

Support

Helping someone during a crisis does not require you to reach into your pockets. Consider reaching into your heart. Send a handwritten card, a text, or an email. Share some love, support, inspiration, or hope. Pray. Lend an ear. Be patient. And it never hurts to offer up the magical words, “No need to respond.” I have personally gained so much strength from the kind and supportive messages I’ve received from people over the years. Unfortunately, I don’t often have the time or energy to respond (or respond as fully as I’d like) to every message. To be on the receiving end of “No need to respond” feels like a warm hug. I know they understand I would reply in depth if I could, and that I will if I get the chance, but that burden has been lifted from my already-heavy shoulders.

If you find yourself in a position to help others and you have the ability to do so, I hope this post can be of help to you. This is by no means an exhaustive list, and I will plan to share further details in a later post, as mentioned above.

Sometimes life is exceptionally hard and unfair, but it is absolutely easier to face the dark days when you know you have the support of others holding you up.

🌻Be the reason someone smiles. Be the reason someone feels loved and believes in the goodness of people. -Roy T. Bennett🌻