It’s a little hard to believe, but it’s been 7 weeks since surgery. Recovery is going ok, but I’m still trying to come back from radiation and the cardiac event in April, so the overall progress has seemed very slow.
Following the traumatic events of this spring/summer, I found myself in a near-constant state of panic. I was experiencing panic attacks daily, crying multiple times per day, and constantly stuck in an unending doom spiral. The coping mechanisms on which I’d learned to rely over the last few years were no longer seeming to help, and every single stressor became just another insurmountable trigger. I managed 4.5 years of cancer to not need daily medication to manage my mental health; I have had detrimental side effects in the past with all of the meds I’ve taken, so I was very hesitant to even consider trying them again. However, I finally reached a point where I realized I could no longer responsibly try to manage things on my own and had to fight to get prescriptions for new meds that weren’t going to carry the high risks of those I’ve tried in the past. So far, I am thankful to report that the medications are helping, though we are still experimenting and working to find the best current regimen for me.
Medication alone has never been sufficient for me when it comes to my mental health. In addition to self-care/lifestyle factors, I have seen several therapists over the past few years. Unfortunately, I discovered this year that even long-term ones were no longer serving me in the ways I currently need. I finally found a therapist I am comfortable with again, and I have been seeing them 1-2 times/week now.
Since surgery, I have had several other important scans and appointments. Thankfully, the large ovarian cyst and accompanying symptoms have resolved. An MRI of my right (non-operative) shoulder reveals a complete tendon tear in my rotator cuff, and I will likely just be continuing to try to heal that through physical therapy at this point.
I had a cardiac MRI last month to get a more accurate measurement of my heart function following the events back in April. Sadly, the MRI shows my left ventricular ejection fraction was at 44%, which places me in the “mild” heart failure category now. Before chemo in 2019, it was 55-60%, and before this last round of radiation, it was 50-55%. The cardiologist has started me on 2 heart failure medications at this time, but, because I’m also struggling with POTS symptoms and low blood pressure, it’s an extremely tricky balance (all of the possible medications for this type of heart failure lower blood pressure, and one of them is also a diuretic, when I’m already struggling to keep my fluid levels higher due to POTS).
I’ve also been meeting and scheduling consults with additional providers to further expand my integrative approach to health and healing. I am learning a lot, trying my best to not get Too overwhelmed, and working hard to remain flexible and hopeful amongst all the unknowns.
Over the last several weeks I have been doing my best to prioritize my mental health, peace, and quality time with Brandon and the kids. I have been limiting my time and influences on social media, making space for intentional solitude, and trying to do things on my own timeline without judging or shaming myself for doing so. I’m learning to allow rest without guilt and just generally try to free myself of unrealistic expectations (typically self-imposed). While I have been working on it for years, I am focusing hard on prioritizing positivity, practicing affirmations, and minimizing and better managing negative energy – from both my own mind and external sources.
Needless to say, it’s been a busy 7 weeks since surgery. As I’m feeling up to it, I will maybe share some photos of recent events since surgery. We had a nice little (delayed) 11th wedding anniversary celebration, Sloane is back in soccer, and we’ve been trying to do some of our little family traditions again. I’d love to say I’m feeling so much better, but scans are already coming up again in a couple of weeks (how??!!), so I’m having to work extra hard at avoiding the doom spirals right now.
As always, thank you all for your care and continued prayers 💜
Lauren MG Doyle 